Live chat with Jeff Dykehouse on justifi...
 
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[Comment From John AgarJohn Agar: ] 
Hi, I’m John Agar, a reporter for Grand Rapids Press and Mlive, here with Jeff Dykehouse, whose story of a justified shooting during an Oct. 8, 2007, break-in was told in a first-person account last week in “Justified to kill: An MLive special report on self-defense homicides in Michigan.” Jeff, a Grand Rapids photographer, was born and raised in Grandville. Joining Jeff in this live chat is John Barnes, the Mlive statewide projects coordinator and Tim Martin, an Mlive legislative reporter. Please feel free to ask Jeff and others questions.
Monday June 18, 2012 12:59 John Agar
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[Comment From John AgarJohn Agar: ] 
What's been the reaction to your story?
Monday June 18, 2012 1:00 John Agar
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[Comment From Jeff DykehouseJeff Dykehouse: ] 
All very supportive as you can image. Some of my family members have never heard the entire story so they were very interested to read the story.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:01 Jeff Dykehouse
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[Comment From John BarnesJohn Barnes: ] 
Jeff, you have the advantage of a duel perspective when it comes to gun ownership: You have had to act in self-defense, and you have also been a police officer – many of whom are leery about too many guns in public. What’s your opinion about an armed citizenry?
Monday June 18, 2012 1:02 John Barnes
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[Comment From Jeff DykehouseJeff Dykehouse: ] 
I believe the more law abiding citizens that have guns the better... with some limitations.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:03 Jeff Dykehouse
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[Comment From Jeff DykehouseJeff Dykehouse: ] 
They do need training and practice however.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:03 Jeff Dykehouse
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[Comment From Jeff DykehouseJeff Dykehouse: ] 
Just owning a gun or getting a cpl isn't really enough.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:03 Jeff Dykehouse
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[Comment From John AgarJohn Agar: ] 
You mentioned that you received notes from others in the same situation. What was their reaction to reading your story.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:04 John Agar
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Jeff Dykehouse: 
Over the past week I've gotten a bunch of emails. Many from others who have experienced a similar situation.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:05 Jeff Dykehouse
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Jeff Dykehouse: 
They have said reading my account and know that there are many others who have gone through it and have been able to make the best of it and move on has been positive.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:06 Jeff Dykehouse
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John Agar: 
Do you sense that others have been troubled?
Monday June 18, 2012 1:06 John Agar
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[Comment From John BarnesJohn Barnes: ] 
I see we have a number of others following the chat. Please feel free to join the conversation!
Monday June 18, 2012 1:06 John Barnes
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Jeff Dykehouse: 
Yes, lots of trouble sleeping, getting to sleep etc.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:07 Jeff Dykehouse
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John Agar: 
After the incident, did you have concerns you would be arrested?
Monday June 18, 2012 1:08 John Agar
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Jeff Dykehouse: 
Many are seeking counseling but they say it's good for them to talk about it.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:08 Jeff Dykehouse
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[Comment From TracyCTracyC: ] 
Jeff, How are has your family handled this? Did your wife and kids have nightmares?
Monday June 18, 2012 1:08 TracyC
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Jeff Dykehouse: 
Not really but I had lots of friends and others tell me it would happen just because that's how it always happens.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:08 Jeff Dykehouse
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[Comment From TracyCTracyC: ] 
I'm glad to hear they didn't. I remmeber us as a family praying for you.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:09 TracyC
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[Comment From LauraLaura: ] 
Do you think part of you wanting to become a police officer was because of these incidents?
Monday June 18, 2012 1:09 Laura
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Jeff Dykehouse: 
No. Fortunately my kids weren't there. They seemed to deal with it pretty well. No kids at school every asked them any questions... not one time. What a blessing that was.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:10 Jeff Dykehouse
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Jeff Dykehouse: 
Yes at least partially.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:10 Jeff Dykehouse
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Jeff Dykehouse: 
I think the world could do with good police officers and I you can never have enough.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:11 Jeff Dykehouse
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John Agar: 
There was a woman you wrote about who told you early on (after the shooting) that she had been attacked by the man you shot. Has she responded to your request to contact you? (she didn't call police, concerned she would be deported).
Monday June 18, 2012 1:11 John Agar
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Jeff Dykehouse: 
No. Not yet. I'm still hopeful she will.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:12 Jeff Dykehouse
1:12
John Agar: 
When you decided to talk about the shooting, what did you hope to accomplish?
Monday June 18, 2012 1:12 John Agar
1:13
John Barnes: 
For folks just joining us, legislative reporter Tim Martin is also following this chat. Tim, you wrote about how Stand Your Ground applies in Michigan, and some efforts to undo it. How likely do you think that is?
Monday June 18, 2012 1:13 John Barnes
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Jeff Dykehouse: 
That sharing my story would inspire others. One reason was for them not to feel bad about wanting to protect themselves and their families.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:13 Jeff Dykehouse
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[Comment From JoshDJoshD: ] 
How has this trauma impacted your personal life, relationships? Do you have trouble trusting people?
Monday June 18, 2012 1:13 JoshD
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Jeff Dykehouse: 
No trouble with most any of that really. Just the waking up at night stuff.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:14 Jeff Dykehouse
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[Comment From SteveSteve: ] 
Do you shoot with some frequency and recreation
Monday June 18, 2012 1:14 Steve
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Jeff Dykehouse: 
I used to shoot competitively. Mostly IDPA matches. I haven't much since the shooting and even less the past few years.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:15 Jeff Dykehouse
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[Comment From Tim MartinTim Martin: ] 
There is virtually no chance the "stand your ground" tenets of Michigan law would be changed at this time. The bills passed the Legislature in 2006 with support from both Republicans and Democrats. Republicans control both chambers of the Legislature now. And I doubt most Democrats want the law changed at this point, either.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:16 Tim Martin
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Jeff Dykehouse: 
I think shooting on a regular basis is importants.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:16 Jeff Dykehouse
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Jeff Dykehouse: 
Just having a gun is not enough... that's an important message that I want to get out.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:17 Jeff Dykehouse
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John Agar: 
Right after it happened, what did people say to you? I mean, are they sympathetic, supportive, do people even know what to say?
Monday June 18, 2012 1:17 John Agar
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Jeff Dykehouse: 
Most everyone was very supportive. Very caring and understanding.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:18 Jeff Dykehouse
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Jeff Dykehouse: 
Lots of offers of support.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:18 Jeff Dykehouse
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[Comment From DustinDustin: ] 
After a recent break in at my house, I've been seriously considering a buying a pistol for protection (I've wanted one for a while anyway). What advice would you give to get started? Anything other than training and practice?
Monday June 18, 2012 1:18 Dustin
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Jeff Dykehouse: 
No real way for most people to help... time is a good healer.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:19 Jeff Dykehouse
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Jeff Dykehouse: 
Talk with other members of your family and get their perspective. Do they support your position?
Monday June 18, 2012 1:19 Jeff Dykehouse
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Jeff Dykehouse: 
It's important to get everyone in the house on the same page.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:19 Jeff Dykehouse
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Jeff Dykehouse: 
I hope they all understand and welcome the idea.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:20 Jeff Dykehouse
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[Comment From John BarnesJohn Barnes: ] 
John Agar, you wrote several of the profiles featured in the Justified to Kill series. How difficult was it for people to open up to you?
Monday June 18, 2012 1:21 John Barnes
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John Barnes: 
Jeff, what if any advice would you have for others dealing with the aftershocks of such an act?
Monday June 18, 2012 1:22 John Barnes
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John Agar: 
I sensed reluctance on the part of those involved to tell their stories. It brings up painful memories. In some cases, such as distracted driving, people can feel they have a soap box of sorts. Here, I wasn't really sure what the people featured would think they could gain. In some cases, the shootings were controversial to begin with.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:23 John Agar
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Jeff Dykehouse: 
Right after the event I had a good friend who was a social worker tell me it was okay to talk about it and to tell the story. Turns out she was right. Opening up and talking and writing about it worked.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:23 Jeff Dykehouse
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[Comment From TIMpTIMp: ] 
Are you always available for work? Can individuals/businesses see your work via web? It would be great to see your photography business thrive!
Monday June 18, 2012 1:23 TIMp
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Jeff Dykehouse: 
Obviously seeking counsel from a professional but just being able to talk to others about it is good.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:23 Jeff Dykehouse
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Jeff Dykehouse: 
How about www.jeffscamera.blogspot.com or www.emilysbigpictureproject.org I'm also on facebook.
Monday June 18, 2012 1:24 Jeff Dykehouse
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Jeff Dykehouse: 
I'm not very good at self promotion... thanks!
Monday June 18, 2012 1:25 Jeff Dykehouse
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