1:01 | [Comment From Frustrated]
Hi Meredith- first off- I love you column and have never written, so here goes. I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year. We used to have a pretty active sex life, but recently it seems to have gone off the deep end. Basically, I want sex a reasonable amount, but he is always "too tired." In the past after discussing it (and me getting upset)- he has told me to initiate when I wanted it- which I have been doing, but everytime he is still too tired. I also think he is still looking at porn, which is fine, but its tough feeling as if you have been rejected for an image and thinking that porn comes before sex (we have had the porn talk before- so I know he has a stash, which im okay with). To me, porn is a great supplement to a sex life, not the grand show itself. I really love him, but the sexual relationship feels so one-sided, and im getting tired of being rejected and then putting a happy face on. Everytime we talk about it, he reassures me that its not me, that he loves me, etc. I have tried to spice things but, it just seems like nothing works and I try not to get upset or angry in front of him. I also don't think he's cheating one me. Is there anything I can do? Is it selfish to want sex from a partner? |
