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Admin - Hello and welcome to our live chat with Mary Jo Rapini. Mrs Rapini is a psychotherapist and an intimacy/sex/relationship therapist. She is the staff psychotherapist on Discovery Health's Big Medicine Show and she blogs for MomHouston at momhouston.com/loveandrelationships.

Mary Jo does not know your entire personal story so any advice she gives please check with your regular doctor before acting on that advice.

Thank you so much for joining us Mary Jo.

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[Comment From Drew]
MaryJo, married 5 years, father of two small kids. Separated for 2 1/2 months. My wife and I are at an impasse, where one week or loger, things will be great and we talk of moving back in, but a single small incident sets her off for days at a time. How do you convince someone they are the top priority without selling yourself out at the same time?

11:06

Mary Jo Rapini - It sounds like you and your wife need therapy. You should call your insurance company and have them recommend a psychotherapist that you can choose because your marriage is at a point of opportunity to save.

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11:09

[Comment From patch]
I have four cats and I pretty much consider them my children. However, my new boyfriend doesn't like cats at all. Now, he's a great guy but he's always complaining about them getting hair on his shirts and jumping up in his lap. How do I find a way to work in both of my loves?

11:10

[Comment From mary jo rapini]
You have to decide if you love the cats more then you love working on a relationship with him. If he comes first right now try and find a way to limit his "cat Exposure".

11:10

[Comment From John]
Any advice for getting my pregnant wife in the mood? She hasn't been interested in months!

11:11

[Comment From mary jo rapini]
It depends on how far along she is. Maybe ask her if she is afraid, or why she doesn't want sex. You may also want to talk with her and her doctor to make sure sex isn't harmful for the baby. She may be more in the mood for sex if she knows it's okay

11:11

[Comment From Nicki]
Can men and women be just friends?

11:12

[Comment From mary jo rapini]
No...it is very difficult.

11:12

[Comment From Dora]
I am having problems with my relationships with old friends. Currently I ignore their slights or offenses but it has cause a drift in my relationship with them. One woman I approached last year and asked her to forgive me for any harm or pain I had caused her. She told me then she had been angry with me for over 3 years for my indifference toward her when her daughter had a miscarriage. I apologized and told her my own issues but they did not count in anyway with her. In the past year she has done minimally to be in contact or help the relationship.

11:13

[Comment From mary jo rapini]
I don't think you are telling the whole story. When people know they are cared for they usually forgive. I am anticipating you may have an aloofness about you that comes across as cold and people feel rejected when they need you most?

11:14

[Comment From Xiomara]
I am in the middle of a nasty divorce. Married 20 years 2 children. We are fighting for the home. I want 100% of home due to the fact that I have paid 90% of mortgage and maintenance. He has paid other 10%, has criminal history, served time in prison, been verbally and emotionally abusive. He has hired two attorney's, fired one. Has not paid any child support and refuses to release his rights to the property. What can I do to keep my home solely?

11:15

[Comment From mary jo rapini]
I am not a lawyer...why would anyone marry and ex con? YOu are too good for that!

11:15

[Comment From John]
Been dating my girlfriend for 8 months. We have yet to have a single fight, and tend to agree on just about everything. This is a stark contrast from my last relationship filled with small bickering. How common is this and do these types of relationships last without any fights or disagreements?

11:16

[Comment From mary jo rapini]
Happy couples fight as much as unhappy couples. Learning to fight fair is the single most important thing you can learn prior to marriage. By the way, if you want to increase your chance of never getting a divorce do not live with this girl prior to getting married.

11:17

[Comment From sillyme]
My husdand and I are experiencing a hard time. He said that he has grown sexually and I haven't. He's wanting some real heavy stuff and I'm trying to fulfil his needs but he keep saying that that doesn't do it for him. What should I do?

11:18

[Comment From mary jo rapini]
90% of sex is in your head. That means the brain is the largest sex organ. Make a date and write down ways to build intimacy. If he has grown sexually and you have not, who did he grow with? Is he pleasing himself? Is it not working for him anymore??? just questions to ask him as I am confused.

11:18

[Comment From Guest]
Really? Men and women can't be friends? That seemed like an abrupt response with not so much to back it up. I am sure that if one is asking because one's partner has friends of the opposite sex it stirs up some jealousy, but that's not the responsibility of the partner with opposite gender friends.

11:20

[Comment From mary jo rapini]
My practice is full of people who committed adultry with their "friends". Therefore, even though I have male friends they are very clear about my intention and my committment to my spouse. Can you do that? If so, you can have a male /female friend.

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